Spiritual Counseling Tips-Gaining Freedom from Mom Wound

For those gaining the freedom from Mom wound.

Spiritual Counseling Tips: One of the most powerful reconciliations a human can have is with our mothers. Even if we must conduct that reconciliation within our own broken hearts, a safe distance from the suction of the past, a new freedom can lift us into an astounding peace. We can shift mountains of grief from a soft-hearted distance. Even if she is no longer in physical from, the unseen cord of life can be transformed into a vibration of acceptance. The animosity and resentment of experiencing her unhealed wounds will no longer block the flow of exuberant life wanting to exist in our lifetime. Her betrayals and rejections are broken into manageable pieces of gold that are then used for our own lives. And if we have children, they have the benefit of traveling without the burden of generational pain.

The slightest bit of willingness clears a section within us for more love to reside. And when that love is for a mother who could not love us in the way we needed to be loved, we free her and ourselves from a tether anchored in the shadow of inert hope. The little child within us that has been grasping onto the despair of disappointment, releases the grasp of that disappointment. A healing takes place that changes the past, the present and the future.  A strangling contraction loosens and an expanded life flows through our veins. Our cellular memory receives new information and new memories are invited to become a part of our lives.  Nothing in the past has changed and yet the new perception alters our minds. The child within us has been updated and now she can relax.

Parents and Parenting

Spiritual Counseling Tip: Every parent has wounded their child. There is no perfect parent and never will be. No matter how hard a parent might try to respond to the child’s moods and childlike behaviors in a loving way, on a hard day, when work has proven to be particularly difficult, some challenge popped up out of nowhere, or sleeplessness thins the line between a calm response and yelling from the top of your lungs, all parents fall short and this causes trouble for the child. That child will interpret the yelling as having something to do with their identity and a lifetime of trying to heal that identity will begin often times, by a dysfunctional repeating of the wound over and over in an effort to heal the wound. If humans could accept this truth, then energy could be directed toward healing instead of guilt. The parent could heal her own wounds around what was said or done by their wounded parents. The child would receive wisdom on letting go of an identity that was cemented with emotion. The cycle of false identities could be broken. A mantra that could free both child and parent from a lifetime of misdirected thoughts could be: I accept the imperfections of my parents. I accept my imperfections as a parent. I am healing my wound of expecting perfection from myself and my parents. My body agrees.

Getting Out of the Way of Your Dreams

Spiritual Counseling Tip: There is something within each human that wants to find expression in the lives we live. It may be a business, some type of creativity, a relationship, or a goal of some sort that started as a thought that simply entered the mind unsolicited and new.  Many humans will follow that impulse to fruition, and many will not. In my experience in my own life and I see it daily in the lives of my awakening clients, is that the block to the fruition is often due to one powerful belief.  That is the expression, goal or dream that wants to make itself manifest in a life has something to do with the worth of that human. The belief is that If I am “successful” I will finally be enough, special or worthy in some way that I was not previously. And if I “fail” at my business, my art, or my writing, I will have proven to myself what I had feared all along, “I am not enough (I am insignificant, an imposter, or generally unworthy in some way). There is a Meme circulating social media that says something like you never know the pain of the chain that is around your neck until you endeavor to move from where you have been emotionally residing.   That chain is the unprocessed belief about your worth. Our dysfunctional culture teaches us in a thousand ways what you must look like, act like and be in order to claim worthiness. It’s a false presentation from a false belief system and it is destroying dreams. What must you have done to be enough? At what point does a child lose their “enoughness?” Who decides?  A powerful mantra to wring out any residual doubt you may have about your worth is: “I AM Enough, Just the way I AM. My body agrees. This subject requires revisiting until you know yourself as whole and able to experience the freedom from the unconscious chains of unworthiness.

A New Venue for My Service in the World

Dear Spiritual Adventurers,

I have an announcement.

Humans can now encourage one another in ways that are global and life-changing. We need each other’s loving witness and support. I have encouraged and have received encouragement. The love-bolstering I received from fellow spiritual travelers has prompted a new change in my life. It has given me the courage to fulfill my calling of service and livelihood. I’ll try to make this concise:

My work in the world is changing somewhat. My Spiritual Counseling hasn’t changed but where and how I offer that service has changed.

I have started a YouTube channel called Loved Humans.  PLEASE see video here.   Liking and subscribing is a painless way to support fellow spiritual traveler.  https://youtu.be/c0D4iDgvjKI

I have closed my office in Tallahassee

My Spiritual Counseling sessions will now be offered via one-on-one at my office/writing studio in Crawfordville, by phone and by video chat.

I’ve told all my clients and I have received such beautiful responses!


My YouTube videos called Loved Humans will be an extension of my Spiritual Counseling tips and my hope is that you will find them useful to your journey. If you do, please subscribe (press subscribe button) and share as I can now conduct counseling sessions no matter where I am, or where my clients might be on any given day.


And thank you again! This is a big day for me!

January 2019 Worry to Self-Trust A Dimensional Switch

Your parents more than likely used worry as a tool for their life-journey. You most likely have done the same.  You might have already discovered that worry weakens you instead of strengthening you. You may have realized that to use a tool such as worry can suck every bit of energy you possess. Worry is seen as love, used as a coping mechanism, and sometimes latched onto for getting something a human may want.  The approach is a negative seeking a positive. It is subtle and extremely powerful. It creates a gerbil cage of unmet desires. It doesn’t work.

It is a tantalizing approach, though to handling life because it gives humans a sense of control. If we can imagine it, we can control it. If we can foresee it, we can mitigate the potential of harm. If we can look at all possibilities of a negative outcome, we have prepared ourselves for whatever might go wrong. Our life-creating thoughts are used to counter some type of frightening potentiality.

Scientist have stated that humans will fill in quiet moments with negative thinking. Its almost as though we think we must fill our minds with negative in order to feel safe from a frightening world. So, we create an inhabitable inner realm to match an inhospitable environment.  No wonder so many people suffer from anxiety and depression in the western world.

This tendency to fortify ourselves with frightening possibilities starts early in our human development (and some would say in the womb). As early as three months old a child will discover they own hands and are likely to discover that these hands can be hurt if something were to pinch them. We might not realize it, but that is a monumental occurrence in a human life. That child now realizes they can be hurt, and their focus will be pulled more and more away from the spiritual realm from where they recently resided into what I call prevention-awareness. The child never wants to feel that pain again. The child’s mind is now primed to pay more attention to the physical and less and less attention to the information that is outside of their five senses. This is how the five senses gain their power and the telepathy, and other psychic abilities are put to the side. Each day that this child lives, information about all the ways to be hurt will be gathered and lodged for retrieval from the subconscious mind. And of course, that child will also be influenced by the fears of those in the environment in which the child is being raised. Children are wired to read the energy in the room. We are wired for survival and must maintain that survival.

The child is likely to experience some major blows emotionally as well. We all do. It’s unavoidable. Any human born into humanity is going to be hurt emotionally by those I call the Tall People. These people can pick a child up from a solid and trustworthy floor and take them through the air clear to the other side of the room. These Tall People have control of when the child will again land on a solid surface and where. These Tall People control the food. They decide what the child will wear and for how long.  Unfortunately, most of these Tall People have not gone through the awakening process and are living by the seat of their stress hormones and though they will try hard not to take it out on the child, they will fail miserably on some days and not so much on others.

So now the child knows there is danger of being hurt physically and is slightly confused about love. The same mother who will sacrifice her life for the child will lose her mind in the afternoon and scream at the top of her lungs words that are undecipherable and frightening. The father whose bent back is a horse ride on one day can change the whole environment within the same four walls when he walks through the door on the next. It doesn’t take imagination to realize that this scenario can be altered drastically by trauma. The feeling of safety has been drastically compromised and that information is lodged in the subconscious mind for future reference. It must be. Humans survive on the information we download.

And then that child begins to move in a world with others and discovers the joy and heartache of those interactions. A fragile identity based on acceptance from others is forged early on. It makes so much sense that humans would need to clutch onto something that would alleviate the stress of being human! Not only are we born into a stressed environment with Tall People in survival mode, but we then get introduced to children just learning a pecking order of influence and will find ourselves on the top in one group and on the bottom of another. Our fragile selves will receive a thousand blows before we even get out of first grade. We will worry ourselves from one human experience to another. We will see ourselves as victims and will suffer the circumstances that victim mentality manufactures.


By the time we are adults, we have done all we can to mitigate the dangers of being human. Some humans will develop methods of staying below the radar so that no future damage can be done. They marry for safety, convenience and predictability. They choose jobs that offer the same. They slay their souls to maintain normalcy and live by the expectation of others. Other humans will seek material wealth to fortify themselves from harm. All of this is fueled by fear and victim consciousness. And it can be transformed.


As a Spiritual Counselor, I am allowed to be a witness to the profound wisdom of humans and to observe that there is an intelligent energy that is constantly steering humans in the direction of their own emancipation. Each one of my clients has demonstrated there is a desire to be realigned with their own wisdom. That is why they sought help. They recognized they had gotten away from their ability to trust themselves. They want it back and there is a part of them that believes that this is possible. They are absolutely correct.

The power of the human mind allows us to extract meaning from our human experiences. We have an experience and then we categorize that experience for future reference. The unfortunate thing about that ability is that most humans are stuck in the overstimulated consciousness of flight, fight or freeze that requires us to interpret meaning from a fearful place. Our experiences often get filed away as a cautionary tale. We misinterpret people’s reactions to us, question our worth in the world and feel powerless to change our circumstances. An overstimulated state of consciousness must react to the world defensively and with hypervigilant eyes to maintain a sense of safety. That consciousness does not allow access to our psychic and inherent instincts. We are too afraid to risk trusting ourselves.

The great news about humans is that we can, and many are in the process as we speak, training ourselves to trust ourselves. We can learn to hear beyond the roar of survival mode. We can trust ourselves to handle the joys and challenges that life provides in ways that don’t have us experiencing the extremes of doubt and second-guessing. We can learn a different method of living. We can depend on the part of ourselves that isn’t afraid of anything to calm the part of us that is afraid of everything.

The first movement toward this beautiful possibility will be that the wound of our past mistakes will come roaring to the front of the mind as it wants to provide the innumerable reasons why it is dangerous to Trust oneself. Ignore it. That would be like a part of you listing the ways in which you misspoke when you were first learning to talk or when you fell when you were first learning to walk or when you got a wrong answer on a test. It doesn’t matter. You overcame those obstacles by focusing on what worked for you. Move forward.

Can you doubt that there is wisdom within you? If the focus was taken away from the fearful possibilities and put toward what you have accomplished, would you be willing to consider that you have something inside of you that can be depended upon to provide useful tips for living? Of course, you can and of course, you do. Inner wisdom does not ever go away. It can’t. It is a part of who we are.

After awareness of our tendency toward worry as a safety mechanism, we can then begin to change our mind. A useful mantra for reclaiming that wisdom and turning it into a mature and stable tool for living in a human body is: I possess inner wisdom that can be trusted. My body agrees.

This One change in thought said enough times can begin the process of rewiring the brain for a different possibility. Stay with it and be watchful toward what our inner would have you do next.


Humans Free Themselves

Spiritual Counseling Tip: There is something in each human that constantly seeks freedom. That something knows exactly what it needs to facilitate that freedom. One of the main things it “needs” is for the will of the human mind to get on board with the invitation to be free. Free from what? Worry is one of the most counterproductive tendencies that prevent humans from experiencing freedom. Worry is seen as love, used as a coping mechanism, and sometimes latched onto for getting something a human may want.  The approach is a negative seeking a positive. It is subtle and extremely powerful. It creates a gerbil cage of unmet desires.

A way to break the habit of worry is to recognize when it is happening. That will startle a human out of the sleepwalking approach to life that humans tend to use until we see that a particular method for living is counterproductive.   A mantra for this awakening can be surprisingly useful.

Mantra: I am willing to learn the practice of letting go of worry. My body agrees.

Humans are Seen, Known, and One With Life


Spiritual Counseling Tip: The Invitation from Life to step into our true nature takes many forms. Sometimes it is loud and scary and sometimes it is a soft nudge. Whichever form it takes, the offer to assist you in becoming your fullest expression of life is made from an Intelligence that knows you. It knows your weaknesses and your strengths. It knows what scares you and what you have already healed. It will never ‘test” you to see how serious you are in your willingness to thrive any more that you would try to trip your child to “test” if the child will get back up and try again. Life within children compels them to thrive. They live from a place of “YES”. When you reclaim your “YES” you are surrendering to the call of Life itself. MANTRA: I am known by the Life Force of YES.

Humans Are Discovering Our True Power

Spiritual Counseling Tip: Humans have the ability to change our relationship to life in any given moment. It’s simple and it’s hard. And that capacity is the one deciding factor for a life that thrives or one that trudges through time. Saying “Life loves me,” is a courageous YES to life and it will respond in kind as it can not do otherwise.

Best Kept Secret in the Vaults of Humanity

Spiritual Counseling Tip: There isn’t anything any human has been through that cannot be healed. In fact, everything has the potential to deliver us to our fullest possibility, purpose, and transformation. It isn’t easy and it takes time. But, it’s also not easy to continue in old patterns while time flies by.

Watch this when you get 7 minutes.  https://youtu.be/uaHWcnuf-gA

A Powerful Choice We Are All Making

With every choice we make, we are living from the beliefs of our subconscious mind or our conscious mind. The problem is that we make most of our choices from the subconscious mind where all the un-examined beliefs about our identity reside.  Humanity has been sleepwalking and making choices from stored up memory of betrayals, abandonment and at the very least, our divine nature profoundly unrecognized by our caretakers.

The good news is that there is a great awakening to our true nature. Self awareness and self-reclamation is a phenomena in humanity at this present time. We are learning to see ourselves with respect and to treat ourselves with unconditional love. We are taking responsibility for our true identity in ways never seen in the evolution of human  person-hood.

This shift in consciousness is having an effect on how we view other humans, animals, and our earth. Yes, much pain and suffering has been inflicted. Yes, humans have a long way to go before we can claim that we have reached a spiritual maturity that can begin to undo the damage of our unconscious living. But, our world is changing because innumerable humans are getting in touch with the  desire for inner growth and their own compass for living a happy life that includes taking others and the earth into consideration. The world is responding.