Parents and Parenting

Spiritual┬áCounseling Tip: Every parent has wounded their child. There is no perfect parent and never will be. No matter how hard a parent might try to respond to the child’s moods and childlike behaviors in a loving way, on a hard day, when work has proven to be particularly difficult, some challenge popped up out of nowhere, or sleeplessness thins the line between a calm response and yelling from the top of your lungs, all parents fall short and this causes trouble for the child. That child will interpret the yelling as having something to do with their identity and a lifetime of trying to heal that identity will begin often times, by a dysfunctional repeating of the wound over and over in an effort to heal the wound. If humans could accept this truth, then energy could be directed toward healing instead of guilt. The parent could heal her own wounds around what was said or done by their wounded parents. The child would receive wisdom on letting go of an identity that was cemented with emotion. The cycle of false identities could be broken. A mantra that could free both child and parent from a lifetime of misdirected thoughts could be: I accept the imperfections of my parents. I accept my imperfections as a parent. I am healing my wound of expecting perfection from myself and my parents. My body agrees.

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